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Dana Okafor, LMFTDana Okafor, LMFT

What "somatic" actually means

Not just deep breathing, and not a euphemism for "woo." A plain explanation of what body-based therapy is actually doing, and why it matters for trauma.

"Somatic" gets used loosely enough that it's stopped meaning much to a lot of people — a synonym for yoga breathing, or a vague gesture at "the mind-body connection." Here's the plainer version.

The short version

Talk therapy works mostly through the thinking brain — understanding, reframing, insight. Somatic therapy works with the nervous system directly, through sensation, posture, breath, and the body's own signals of safety or threat. The idea isn't to replace talking. It's that some things a hard week left behind aren't stored as thoughts at all — they're stored as a tight jaw, a held breath, a startle that won't quite settle. Talking about it can only go so far when the thing that needs to change isn't a belief.

What a session actually involves

Less than people expect. Often it's simply noticing — where does that land in your body, what happens in your shoulders when you say that out loud — and staying with it a little longer than feels natural. Sometimes there's gentle movement or breath work. There is never anything performative about it, and you're always, fully, in control of your own body the entire time.

If the word has put you off before, that's fair — it's a word that's absorbed a lot of noise. The work underneath it is quieter and more ordinary than the word suggests.

About the author

Dana Okafor, LMFT

Dana Okafor, LMFT

M.A., LMFT

Dana is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Port Townsend, specializing in trauma-informed, somatic work. She writes the way she works — slowly, plainly, with no pressure to arrive anywhere by the end.